just made a very appreciative comment
in the Tipsy Oracle comments. Which I returned because hey, so very true of her too! And it got me thinking.
It's a good life where we take turns being amazing. For one thing, none of us is amazing every dang minute, so it's important to have tag-team amazingness, or relay-race amazingness, or maybe amazingness like a bunch of meerkats taking turns looking out for each other.
I myself am pretty much a mix of a good deal of ordinaryness, some amazingness, a helping of definitely sub-par oh dear but there you go, and some other stuff besides. So are a whole bunch of the people I like and love and admire and am inspired by and perplexed by and challenged by and just generally have life made interesting by. Interesting in the good ways, usually. (Though the other does happen too. People. Oy. Ya know?) But anyhow, being able to take a compliment is a good skill to have, and sometimes it takes getting over a lot of flinching to be able to do it and let it really soak in. And it also takes being able to appreciate other people when they do good stuff, without curling up around some hard cinder of unpleasantness that blew in from somewhere during a bad time, or got installed and never disinstalled, or something.
Also? These skills are contagious. That may not be the exact word, but the metaphor is sufficiently urgent for what I mean.
I could say a whole long thing here, but what it really boils down to is this:
1. If you have a problem with somebody else being amazing at times, go and deal with that problem before it costs you (and them, and the general everybody) more than it already has. Because seriously.
2. If you have a problem with yourself being amazing at times, well, same advice actually.
Because cutting ourselves down is as bad as cutting other people down. Neither helps increase the general store of amazingness. And frankly, we need amazingness held in common -- and being able to appreciate and cheer for the amazingness of others is part of how we get and keep and enrich a common.
Yeah, it's a good idea to remember that amazingness comes and goes, and not to get the big head. But mostly, how about we work on appreciating the varieties of amazingness when they happen? Because really, they add, rather than subtract. Anybody who thinks someone else's amazingness subtracts from their own, so they need to try to cut them down some? Run like hell. Friends don't ask friends to be smaller in order that one feel somehow safer. (Doesn't work anyhow, because there is no safe that's safe enough for people doing that.)
OK, apparently this has been a longer-than-expected message from your Not-Tipsy-Anymore Oracle. Go forth and have a day, or night, or a whatever, with my best wishes. And if you notice some amazingness, do the acknowledgement thing. Even if it's your own. Heck, maybe especially if it's your own.