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Shawna Jaquez
31 December 2014 @ 09:52 am
I am grateful for 2014. I embrace 2015. Happy New Year, everyone. I wish for you creativity, growth, love, support, courage, stability, confidence, curiosity, strength, compassion, wisdom, and opportunity in whatever proportions you need/want. I am off to celebrate with some of my favorite people. Have a safe and happy NYE, y'all.
Feeling: Joyful
Listening to: Xavier Rudd -- Follow the Sun
Shawna Jaquez

"Colbert: As a man, am I allowed to be a feminist?

Sarkeesian: Do you believe that women should have equal right to men...?

Colbert: Sure.

Sarkeesian: ...and that we should fight for those rights?

Colbert: Sure.

Sarkeesian: Great, then you're a feminist."

Watch it here:
Feeling: jubilantjubilant
Listening to: "Great, then you're a feminist."
Shawna Jaquez
07 October 2014 @ 10:48 am
Are you out there? Who's reading? Is this thing even on? *taps mic*

Definitely missing Ye Olde Livejournal Dayes today.
Feeling: thoughtfulthoughtful
Listening to: Dar Williams -- "Are You Out There?"
Shawna Jaquez
02 October 2014 @ 07:21 pm
Well, it appears that Benedict Cumberbatch has joined the Night's Watch.

Benedict Cumberbatch as Richard III in ‘The Hollow Crown’ (Pic: BBC)
Feeling: amusedamused
Listening to: Glee -- Season 2 Episode 3
Shawna Jaquez
01 June 2014 @ 10:34 pm
To anyone telling someone not to grieve:

I thought about not saying anything, but this is important. I do not think he would not want people to grieve. jaylake was wiser than that, by far, too wise not to acknowledge the process of human grief. Grieving is for the living. So is healing. Let the living grieve and heal as they must. Please stop telling people not to grieve.

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Shawna Jaquez
Every time I see that graphic where someone has memed Captain Jean-Luc Picard to say "Why would you make fun of a fat person at the gym when you have visible evidence that they are actively trying to fix the problem?!", it makes me angry, and here's why.

My fat body is not a problem. It is especially not someone *else's* problem.

It's also not something another person gets to judge me for. Ragen Chastain says a lot more about this more eloquently than I do in her FAQs on her blog, Dances with Fat.

"Weight and health are two separate things – there are healthy and unhealthy people of all sizes. Health is multi-dimensional, not entirely within our control, and not a barometer of worthiness."

I will summarize with this: No one is obligated to conform to anyone else's standards of health. No one is required to justify their habits, food choices, or anything like that to anyone. I constantly resist the urge to needlessly justify my food and exercise choices to people I'm talking to, because it's how I've been programmed.

Every time I see that graphic, I think, "Why would you make fun of a random person doing something for themselves that is entirely unrelated to you?".

I think of the health professional I stopped seeing because she insisted that I was experiencing diabetes symptoms when my labs were, and have always been, solidly normal where all of that is concerned. I think of how the thin girls at my first job were allowed to wear somewhat form-fitting clothing, but if my shirts were anything but high necked and baggy, I was accused of not dressing appropriately. I think of my mother giving my brother and sister ice cream, and then turning to me and saying, "Oh, you and I don't need those extra calories."

I repeat: My fat body is not a problem to be fixed.

Now, excuse me, but I must go eat cake with the Captain.

Feeling: angryangry
Listening to: SJ Tucker -- Not the Villain
Shawna Jaquez
Originally posted by elisem at it's a good life where we take turns being amazing, or, what to run from and what to run toward
So papersky just made a very appreciative comment in the Tipsy Oracle comments. Which I returned because hey, so very true of her too! And it got me thinking.

It's a good life where we take turns being amazing. For one thing, none of us is amazing every dang minute, so it's important to have tag-team amazingness, or relay-race amazingness, or maybe amazingness like a bunch of meerkats taking turns looking out for each other.

I myself am pretty much a mix of a good deal of ordinaryness, some amazingness, a helping of definitely sub-par oh dear but there you go, and some other stuff besides. So are a whole bunch of the people I like and love and admire and am inspired by and perplexed by and challenged by and just generally have life made interesting by. Interesting in the good ways, usually. (Though the other does happen too. People. Oy. Ya know?) But anyhow, being able to take a compliment is a good skill to have, and sometimes it takes getting over a lot of flinching to be able to do it and let it really soak in. And it also takes being able to appreciate other people when they do good stuff, without curling up around some hard cinder of unpleasantness that blew in from somewhere during a bad time, or got installed and never disinstalled, or something.

Also? These skills are contagious. That may not be the exact word, but the metaphor is sufficiently urgent for what I mean.

I could say a whole long thing here, but what it really boils down to is this:

1. If you have a problem with somebody else being amazing at times, go and deal with that problem before it costs you (and them, and the general everybody) more than it already has. Because seriously.

2. If you have a problem with yourself being amazing at times, well, same advice actually.

Because cutting ourselves down is as bad as cutting other people down. Neither helps increase the general store of amazingness. And frankly, we need amazingness held in common -- and being able to appreciate and cheer for the amazingness of others is part of how we get and keep and enrich a common.

Yeah, it's a good idea to remember that amazingness comes and goes, and not to get the big head. But mostly, how about we work on appreciating the varieties of amazingness when they happen? Because really, they add, rather than subtract. Anybody who thinks someone else's amazingness subtracts from their own, so they need to try to cut them down some? Run like hell. Friends don't ask friends to be smaller in order that one feel somehow safer. (Doesn't work anyhow, because there is no safe that's safe enough for people doing that.)

OK, apparently this has been a longer-than-expected message from your Not-Tipsy-Anymore Oracle. Go forth and have a day, or night, or a whatever, with my best wishes. And if you notice some amazingness, do the acknowledgement thing. Even if it's your own. Heck, maybe especially if it's your own.
Shawna Jaquez
12 February 2014 @ 12:04 pm
I raised a concern to my lead, and it felt like he took credit for spotting the issue in the email in which he raised the concern to the appropriate people. I thought about how to deal with this, and settled on the following solution:

"Thank you for raising my concern to the relevant people, [Lead]."

I then followed that up with a clarification, a request for more detail in a specific area, and a conjecture about what we are expecting.

Conflict-free, constructive, professional. I am proud of this accomplishment.

I may choose to speak to him on this matter later, but for now, I think this was an excellent way to get credit for my own work by showing where it originated without being petty or unprofessional.
Shawna Jaquez
I have renamed from foxipher to sheistheweather.
Shawna Jaquez
1/2 cup + 2 tbsp flour (King Arthur All-Purpose, or Arrowhead Gluten-Free All-Purpose Baking Mix)
1/4 tsp baking soda
1/4 tsp salt
1/4 cup butter or baking margarine, softened
2 Tbsp brown sugar
1 Tbsp white sugar
1/2 egg
1/2 tsp vanilla
3/4 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips (Guittard, which are made in a gluten and peanut free facility)

Preheat oven to 375 degrees F, then bake for 8-12 minutes. Let cool for as long as you feel like it.
Yields about 1 dozen cookies, although somehow I only managed eleven gluten-free ones. These gluten-free ones were much better than the ones made with the mix from The Cravings Place.
Feeling: happyhappy
Listening to: Welcome to Night Vale -- 16 - The Phone Call